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Violence against transwomen in Turkey

I already knew transphobic violence is all too common, but I still found these reports from Lambda Istanbul arresting.

From March 10:

Our Transsexual friend Ebru has been stabbed to death at her own apartment on March 10.

We; who have been saying that Transsexual and Transvestite murders are political murders, are going to protest the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual phobic system which does not define “Hate Crimes”, awards the Killers by reducing their prison sentences, does not provide any constitutional rights to Gay, Lesbian, Transsexual, bisexuals, and transvestite population, and makes these type of murders much easier.

To commemorate Ebru and many others like her, We will be having a press conference infront of Ebru‘s house on Purtelas street. We are asking all to join us and support us on our cause for a just world for all.

And two days ago: Continue reading →

The superintendents’ letter

If you read Kody’s post I linked to the other day, you may recall a letter to the new clerk of FUM from the superintendents of five Orthodox Quaker yearly meetings, which alarmed him so much that he’s been losing sleep.

Johan Maurer posted a quote and some thoughts a few days ago, and I just found the letter itself via Bill Samuel’s site. The full text:

October 28, 2008

Kelly Kellum, Presiding Clerk
Friends United Meeting
800 Quaker Lane
High Point, NC 27262

Dear Kelly Kellum,
The General Superintendents of Indiana, Iowa, North Carolina, Western and Wilmington Yearly Meetings, in prayerful consultation, feel led to write to you expressing our deep concern for the mission and future of Friends United Meeting. While you are relatively new to leadership in this organization we are sure that you are well aware of the organization’s often contentious history and the current undercurrents that erode unity and undercut important ministry.

In short, we believe that the current composition and structure of FUM is not working. We share a strong conviction that we can and must do better. Our dually-affiliated yearly meetings suffer from painful conflict connected to their relationship with FUM; conflict that eats up valuable time and energy. The five yearly meetings that we represent likewise often face painful division among our own meetings concerning our relationship with FUM and share the frustration of being yoked together with Friends who do not share a common sense of identity or a common vision for ministry. We observe that the FUM staff struggles to lead an organization divided by competing theologies and priorities. The most tragic result of this is that the work of FUM around the world suffers.

We have a vision of General Board meetings that could be times of deep prayer and celebration. Instead they often feel like times of outward filibusters and underlying tensions. We observe that deep differences in crucial matters such as the divinity of Jesus Christ, the atonement, the authority of scripture, and issues related to the FUM personnel policy continue to deeply divide us, with no real unity looming on the horizon.

Again, our concern is not only that we can do better, but that we must do better. We ask the FUM General Board Executive Committee immediately assume the task of searching for options that would address these concerns and that specific strategies be presented at our next meeting of the FUM General Board in February 2009.

Sincerely,

Doug Shoemaker – Indiana YM
Ron Bryan – Iowa Yearly Meeting
John Porter – North Carolina YM
Marlene Pedigo – Western YM
Steve Pedigo – Western YM
Marvin Hall – Wilmington YM

As Kody says, it is “unsettlingly ambiguous,” in that it doesn’t propose any specific solutions. But I find Johan’s analysis pretty convincing. His entire post and comments are well worth reading (as are all of his posts about FUM), but in short he seems to be saying that this could become a reprise of the realignment debate early 90s, when the FUM general secretary (of all people) proposed that FUM dissolve and its constituent meetings join either Evangelical Friends International or the liberal Friends General Conference. In his words, that suggestion failed

more because of faulty process than merit; this time, a perhaps similar vision is being pursued with directness and transparency, and with openness to other alternatives that could overcome FUM’s real problems.

He lists a number of alternatives in a comment, the most hopeful of which (#4) is basically that people remember that there are more important things Quakers should be doing than griping about FUM. The liberal yearly meetings, for example, could IMHO try to root out homophobia from our own communities before criticizing other ones.

I do think the letter makes an important point that liberal Friends routinely seem innocent of, and which I’ve pointed out repeatedly: that the differences between Orthodox and liberal FUM meetings go beyond the heterosexism of  “the personnel policy.” Most FUM meetings have a much stricter take on scripture than liberal meetings do, which is a primary cause of both the personnel policy we talk so much about, as well as other differences we are only dimly aware of but which are very important to them – the divinity of Jesus, for example, as the letter says.

Any honest dialogue about the future of FUM has to recognize this – as a further reason to part ways, or as a further challenge to overcome in order to remain together.

Daily Kos Endorses Reclist Shenanigans

Speaking of feeds: I was dismayed when I couldn’t find a feed for the “Recommended Diaries” list on Daily Kos, until a dramafest this weekend convinced me I should stop following them so closely anyway.

On the 23rd, an execrable columnist named Dennis Prager wrote an article on Townhall.com entitled “When a Woman Isn’t In the Mood,” basically saying that when a man wants to have sex with his wife and she’s not digging it, she should consent anyway, because men (didn’t you hear?) are happier when they have more sex.

In essence, it’s not that far from Dan Savage’s maxim “good, giving, and game” — except Prager says nothing about communication (that would be “emasculating”), nothing about why a woman might not want to have sex with her husband in the first place, and the genders-reversed case is swept under the rug. In short, a truly awful and phallocentric piece of commentary.

How does the Daily Kos community respond? Someone writes a diary with the hyperbolic title “Dennis Prager Endorses Marital Rape”, setting off a 800+ comment firestorm.

Hours later another diarist with better reading comprehension writes a response, “No, Prager is NOT Advocating Marital Rape”, attracting another 800+ comments.

Finally a third diarist writes another reply, “The REAL Problem With Prager’s Remarks On Sex and Marriage”, arguing that the debate over the R-word has distracted everyone from discussing the sexism the author is actually guilty of. Third time’s the charm.

Meanwhile – actually, no, days earlier – the folks over at Alas, a Blog needed only one post to completely demolish the column. If you read any of these links, read that one.

Warren, relationship and consternation

The more Obama’s choice of Rick Warren for the inaugural prayer marinates, the more I agree with sentiments like E.J. Dionne’s:

“[A] more benign view on parts of the religious left casts Warren as the evangelical best positioned to lead moderately conservative white Protestants toward a greater engagement with the issues of poverty and social justice, and away from a relentless focus on abortion and gay marriage.

“People always say, ‘Rick, are you right wing or left wing?’ I say ‘I’m for the whole bird.’ ” Many liberals hope — and a lot of conservatives fear — that the rise of “whole bird” Christianity will break up right-wing dominance in the white evangelical community….

Obama wants to encourage this move, which would be good for him and good for progressive politics. Fear that Obama’s analysis is exactly right is why so many conservatives are so angry with Warren for blessing the new president’s inaugural.

Although I support same-sex marriage, I think that liberals should welcome Obama’s success in causing so much consternation on the right. On balance, inviting Warren opens more doors than it closes.

Of course it’s easy for me to say, not being the target (well, mostly not) of his homophobic bigotry, so I think anyone who feels angry has every right to.

A debate with similar features is perpetually waged in Quaker circles: whether liberal Quakers should cut ties with the more-or-less heterosexist organization Friends United Meeting. Recently Kody Gabriel wrote an impassioned open letter to his yearly meeting which has been getting a lot of attention. The main point, for me:

“Hearts and minds change through relationship, not rhetoric.”

Charles Blow gets paid for this?

And sits atop the “Most Emailed” list?

The comments at least are interesting.